1 in 5 UK children have a probable mental health disorder. (NHS Digital, 2024)

82% of UK parents have shown signs of parental burnout. (Action for Children, 2024)

2 out of 3 parents take time off work due to children's mental health needs. (Nutfield Trust, 2024)

50% of mental health disorders are established by age 14. (Mental Health Foundation, 2024)

Nearly half of children referred to mental health services in the UK are under 13 years old. (Children's Commissioner Report, 2024)

A Pocket Guide to Calm: How to Find Instant Parenting Support

Sep 19, 2025 | Families, lumin&us® Lighthouse Toolkit

As a parent, you instinctively know that your child needs to feel safe. But what happens when you’re both stressed, and you can’t quite figure out how to get back to a place of calm? Navigating your child’s emotions can feel like a guessing game, especially when you’re both struggling.

At lumin&us®, we believe that understanding your nervous system is the key to creating a safe and secure environment for your child. Your body is always scanning for signs of danger, and so is your child’s. This continuous process determines if you both feel safestruggling, or even drowning. Because these responses are automatic, they can often lead to behaviours that seem confusing or overwhelming.

By learning to read your own and your child’s cues, you can provide the support needed to help them regulate their emotions. This means being attentive, offering comfort, and engaging in playful activities that enhance your connection. It also means recognising when you, as a parent, are feeling stressed and need to calm your own nervous system.


Your Toolkit for Instant Support

This is where the lumin&us® app comes in. It’s designed to be your instant parenting support, available 24/7.

Using the in-App surveys, you can quickly work out which state—safe, struggling, or drowning—you and your child are in based on feelings, behaviours, and physical responses. You’ll get instant tips and tools to support, soothe, and calm you both. With a better understanding of how your nervous systems work, you can build a stronger, more confident family.

And, remember to lower your expectations of yourself. You are doing a great job. Focus on finding ways to feel safe in the moment, and as you learn what helps you and your child, you’ll both feel more confident and connected. Connecting through play can be truly transformational!


The lumin&us® Lighthouse Toolkit

Are you ready to stop guessing and start understanding? The lumin&us® Lighthouse Toolkit is a one-of-a-kind resource developed by two mothers and trusted by over 30,000 families and professionals. It’s the toolkit of its kind with free App access to combine neuroscience and play therapy, giving you the knowledge and tools used by professionals to improve your family’s emotional wellbeing.

Don’t miss out on your chance to get our powerful new toolkit. Sign up for our no-obligation pre-order email to be the first to know when it becomes available.

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